I saw an article today on WFAA.com — a local TV station for the Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas area — that announced something that I very strongly support: “Cheating debate going to Grapevine church.”
Now my guess is that the diligent WFAA reporter meant to say “Cheating debate GOING TO OCCUR at Grapevine church” or “The Cheating debate COMES to Grapevine church” (Grapevine is a little town in Texas) but if you read the article you’ll see that the gist of the story is exactly what I personally believe The Church–the body of Christ–needs to do. The pastor at Fellowship Church in Grapevine
, Pastor Young, has invited Noel Biderman
, to come to the church this Thursday and debate him! “Who’s Noel Biderman?” you ask? Why he’s the guy who runs the website AshleyMadison (and no–I will not link to it) and who has made millions by giving infidelity a platform.
Now don’t get me wrong–I know nothing about Fellowship Church, and I don’t know their denomination or theology at all. But I personally APPLAUD THEM for having the courage to get down in the trenches and say it out loud: adultery is occurring within The Church. A true Believer in Christ might think: “Oh well that will never happen to us, we’re Christians…” and yet it IS! So rather than pretend that infidelity is not happening, and rather than turning a blind eye to the false beliefs that our country has about what Love is, they are facing it–HEAD ON! Let’s shine a light on the misinformation; bring the Truth to the light of day, and stop being ostriches with our heads in the ground.
Biderman says (quoting here): “I think Pastor Young’s view of the world is that adultery is wrong …My view of the world is that it is not that cut and dry. That it’s easy to sit there from a distant and judge someone as being straight or bad or wrong. And the person who was cheated on as a victim. I don’t think it’s that simple.” You know what? Adultery IS wrong because God spoke through the Bible to say that it is wrong–thus it is! What happens though is that one spouse acts harshly, ignores their responsibilities, or ignores their spouse and hurts them deeply…and rather than address THAT ISSUE and THAT SIN, the other spouse then makes a deliberate decision to respond with sin of their own, namely looking outside the marriage to have their needs met. If your spouse does something wrong, that is not license for YOU to commit wrong! A spouse absolutely IS responsible for their love-quenching/marriage-harming choices, and if we REALLY want to save marriages, let’s teach spouses that the way to address a spouse who is bossy, who acts poorly, or who punishes by withholding sex or giving the cold shoulder IS NOT TO HAVE AN AFFAIR!! Let’s shine the light of the truth on all the false assumptions our “society” makes and make it clear and obvious that the myths about adultery DON’T HOLD WATER! Then let us teach couple How To Be Married.
I’m starting a new project over on Facebook–30 Days of Me. The idea is to make an album and then post a picture every day to let people get to know you. I feel odd having people know me, and so to step out of my shell I’m giving this a try. Here’s the challenge:
Day 01 – A picture of yourself with fifteen facts.
Day 02 – A picture of you and the person you have been close with for awhile.
Day 03 – A picture of the cast from your favorite show.
Day 04 – A picture of a habit you wish you didn’t have….
Day 05 – A picture of your favorite memory.
Day 06 – A picture of a person you’d love to trade places with for a day.
Day 07 – A picture of your most treasured item.
Day 08 – A picture that makes you laugh.
Day 09 – A picture of the person who has gotten you through the most.
Day 10 – A picture of the person you do the most messed up things with.
Day 11 – A picture of something you hate.
Day 12 – A picture of something you love.
Day 13 – A picture of your favorite band or artist.
Day 14 – A picture of someone you could never imagine your life without.
Day 15 – A picture of something you want to do before you die.
Day 16 – A picture of someone who inspires you.
Day 17 – A picture of someone that has made a huge impact on your life recently.
Day 18 – A picture of your biggest insecurity.
Day 19 – A picture of you when you were little.
Day 20 – A picture of somewhere you’d love to travel.
Day 21 – A picture of something you wish you could forget.
Day 22 – A picture of something you wish you were better at.
Day 23 – A picture of your favorite book.
Day 24 – A picture of something you wish you could change.
Day 25 – A picture of your day.
Day 26 – A picture of something that means a lot to you.
Day 27 – A picture of yourself and a family member.
Day 28 – A picture of something you’re afraid of.
Day 29 – A picture that can always make you smile.
Day 30 – A picture of someone you miss.
Want to follow along and meet “The Affaircare Lady”? Come on over to my “30 Days of Me” photo album and while you’re there on Facebook…click [Like] on the Affaircare page!