Question of the Week: April 7th – 13th

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Your spouse keeps saying they are “just friends” but where do YOU draw the line?

Is is right for your spouse to have opposite sex friends?   To go to lunch with their opposite sex friends?  To text 1000 or more texts with their opposite sex friends?  To talk on the phone with their opposite sex friends?  To have hobbies and interests with their opposite sex friends?  To spend more time with their opposite sex friends than they do with you?  To discuss your marriage with their opposite sex friends?  To discuss sexual topics with their opposite sex friends?  To flirt with their opposite sex friends?  To be suggestive with their opposite sex friends?

What about touching?  Is it right for your spouse to shake hands with an opposite sex friend?  To touch their arm?  To do a short, friendly hug?  To do a “touch cheeks” kiss in the air?  To do a peck kiss?  To do a longer, lingering hug?  To kiss on the lips?  To touch each other through clothing?  To turn each other on?

Where do YOU draw the line?

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One thought on “Question of the Week: April 7th – 13th

  1. No. Let me say it again…NO. Ever since his affairs came to light, absolutely NO. ESPECIALLY in the workplace since all of his affair partners were employee’s. There is really NO reason for him to have female friends, especially ones I do not know about. He does NOT need to be having lunch with them, it creates an atmosphere of intimacy. There should be no intimate conversation at all. None. Again creates an emotional bond that he should not have with anyone but me. No touching, absolutely not. That’s how he went down the slippery slope to begin with. A pat on the shoulder, a brief lingering hug, etc.

    It’s not me being hard on him, it’s just that there is NO REASON. And I hold myself to the SAME boundaries.

    We have same-sex friends and then friends of the marriage. There is no reason either of us need to spend time along with opposite sex people. Ever.

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