Hello, I’m Cindy! I was born in Wisconsin and grew up a small-town girl with my two sisters and dog, Spot. I was born again at the tender age of ten after hearing pastor Stuart Briscoe speak in the early 1970’s at a small but growing Elmbrook Church. I did not go to seminary or major in Psychiatry or Psychology, but began official training in the coaching field in 2002 after my first marriage ended due to infidelity.
I attended Spencer Institute, and thereafter focused my studies on marriage and infidelity coaching. I have completed a one-year certification process to become a Marriage Mentor; qualified as a Rebuilding After Divorce support group leader; finished extensive training to become a rape crisis hotline volunteer; trained with leaders in the field focusing on love addiction and betrayal bonding; and started this website: Affaircare. Through the grace of God, David and I met each other! We completed our studies into nouthetic coaching with IBCD.
Customer testimonials
“…in my case, if it hadn’t been for you guys coaching me and talking me down from my own emotional turmoil I wouldn’t be married today. And I knew when my emotions took control of me back then, I could post on this forum and could rely on you to talk me down and help me realize things would be ok and it wasn’t the end of the world, even though it seemed and it some ways were/was the end of the world. So for that I don’t know how I could ever repay you both for what you two have done in both my life and my wife’s. And have prayed for you both many times and thanked the lord for leading me to you.” ~B.W from Colorado
Hi, I’m K.L from Alabama. C.J. is a dedicated coach and is great at what she does. She helped me through a very hard time in my life. I’m very thankful that I found her.
Affaircare I am being serious I think you helped me get on the path of saving my marriage!!!! I have followed the steps you gave me and I am seeing huge results!!! H is responding and when I finally REALIZED I had to take control of myself the tables turned. Also the love kindlers were huge…”
I’m David. Born in Denver in the mid 14th century, proud father of 5 (+2 stepkids). I’m an artist, musician, gamer, and a child of the Reformation. I’ve been a Christian as long as I can remember, but for a lot of my life, I did not do my utmost for His glory. My life has been a meandering school of hard knocks. While my faith never wavered, my behavior certainly did. It cost me two marriages before I finally realized that what is important is to honor God, to work at doing the right thing. Or, as He puts it: “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Even while I was stumbling about like Jonah, I still spent most of my adult life studying. I am proudly an autodidact; I realized early on that I could not afford the education I wanted, and so I set out to find out what would be needed in order to achieve various degrees for various disciplines. With that information, I set out to learn it. And I’ve done reasonably well, I think.
At the present, Cindy and I are working toward a NANC certification in Biblical counseling, and I continue my studies in other fields as well (primarily theological studies and economics, and my heart’s main love, music). Above all, I am a child of God, and my goal is to grow to have the mind of Christ. I believe that the most important thing a person can do is transform their thinking so that it coincides with God’s. Of course this will never happen – especially in this life. Yet it is still the foundation of growth as a Christian. Hence, my own special statement from God is:
“…Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will….” (Romans 12:2)
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While I do not believe in God as you do, I can certainly appreciate your passion and your commitment to your path. I am proudly a Jewish atheist and grew up with a grandmother who was committed to her Jewish roots.
I have always been of the mind that everyone has their own path.
Thank you for visiting Todd–and thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. We appreciate meeting an associate who is “in the trenches” with us helping others.
I enjoyed coming across your website and, especially reading your testimony about your own marriage. I’m a NANC counselor so I wanted to encourage you in that area. May God continue to bless your ministry.
Hi Cindy and David,
I came across your website as I Google searched “scriptures for when your husband cheats.” I may be interested in using your services, but I have a problem. My husband won’t admit to the 6-year affair he had with another woman despite all the evidence I have–the other woman came to my home and told me the whole story and gave me pictures of them and a voicemail from him telling her he loved her. He even brought her to church!! She told me they were looking at wedding dresses together, and that their relationship was also sexual. Since this incident, he is denying sexual infidelity and is claiming he doesn’t want a divorce and that he only loves me. I also found out he has been drinking and got a DUI and had our car repossessed. I want a divorce because clearly, I cannot trust him. Biblically, do I have the right to divorce him even though he wants to work it out? Like I said, he won’t admit to cheating, so I’m left going insane and unable to heal from it. He said he only needs to confess to God and not me. Mind you, years ago before he backslid, he used to be a youth pastor and served diligently as a drummer on the Worship team at our church. What are my options here? I am too angry to give him another chance, especially since he won’t confess his sin to me. Please help!