Domestic Violence Safety Plan

Safety Plan

Create an emergency escape plan.

  • Create a list of important phone numbers (e.g. police, shelter) for yourself and your children, and always have change for a phone call 24 hours/7 days a week
  • Create a list of safe places you can go (e.g. family, friend, shelter)  
  • Tell your neighbours (if it’s safe) you would like them to call police if they hear fighting or screaming/possibly children will go there.
  • Hide clothing, house keys, car keys, money, important documents (or copies), favorite toys, etc. at a friend or family member’s home
  • Keep all of your identification in your wallet (or other safe place)
  • Open your own bank account (at a bank different from your partner) and arrange that calls and bank statements go to a friend or family member
  • Save and set aside as much money as you can (e.g. from grocery budget)
  • Have $10 to $15 available for cab fare or an emergency
  • Be aware of any weapons in the home (including kitchen knives)
  • Tell people you trust about the abuse
  • Teach your children their own safety plan (i.e. safe place to go, how to use the phone to call for help, emergency exits, etc)
  • Create a code word with your children and family so they know when to call for help
  • Consider a plan for the safety and welfare of your pet(s)

If you are not living with your abusive partner:


  • Change the locks, install a peephole in the door, a security system, an outside lighting system, and smoke detectors
  • Teach your children not to answer the door
  • Have your telephone number unpublished and block your number when calling out (dial *67 before the number)
  • Consider getting a cellular phone and have a cordless in the house
  • Keep your restraining order near you at all times
  • Make sure the school, day care, and police have a copy of all court documents, including restraining orders and custody/access orders
  • Tell people that your partner no longer lives with you and ask them to call police if your partner is seen near your home or children
  • Tell the people who take care of your children who has permission to pick them up
  • Tell someone at work about your situation and ask for calls to be screened
  • Stay away from the places your partner is likely to go or hang out (e.g. stores, banks, video rental, bars)


Important Documents and Items to Take With You When You Leave

  • Identification
  • Birth certificates for you and your children
  • Health certificates for you and your children
  • Social insurance card (social security card)
  • School and medical records
  • Money, bank books, credit cards
  • Keys – house, car, office, safety deposit box, mail box
  • Driver’s license and registration
  • Medications/prescriptions for you and your children
  • Passport, immigration papers, citizenship papers
  • Mortgage information, house deed, lease/rental agreement
  • Insurance papers
  • Address book
  • Pictures, jewelry, personal items of sentimental value
  • Children’s favorite toys, blankets
  • Any legal documents (i.e. separation agreement, divorce papers, restraining order)

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